They’re together and each is carrying their own luggage. Hmmm…interesting.
If I carry luggage that doesn’t belong to me, in addition to my own luggage, I have abandoned myself. If someone else allows me to continuously carry their luggage while just standing by, they have abandoned themselves and me.
I know now that I didn’t advocate for the appropriate load for myself because I didn’t have the tools. I was programmed not to know about them because of someone else’s lack of capacity to do the right thing and level the load. Fear, inadequacy, neglect, shame, guilt, anxiety, addiction and depression are all bags from someone else’s past. I don’t have to carry those bags. It is not a failure, in fact it is quite the opposite.
“Step aside Guilt and let this good person through! Stop impeding their path.”
Visualizing each unhealthy dynamic crystallizes just how many pieces of luggage we’re talking about here…I realize that I might as well have left the luggage at the claim because there was no way in hell ANY human could have carried all of it – even with a big ass cart! This is not about intellect. This is about unreasonable expectations that ignore capacity theory and capability measures. The axiom is this: Regardless of the form of the luggage, if I agree to carry it, the load is the same. Tangibly leave it, intangibly take it…doesn’t matter.
“Dammit prof, sometimes I hate lectures.”
See this guy is carrying his own luggage…
The lady below is carrying her own luggage…
Whoa, check out all that luggage! Where are the owners? Have they left all of those bags behind? Who are they without their luggage? Are they still the same people? Are they better off without it? What will happen to the luggage if nobody claims it? Why should anybody care?
I see possibilities everywhere.