Today I am feeling angry and resentful toward H. I believe the root cause is from stewing about the fact that he has not called for counseling.
This is none of my business.
What is my business is to release these feelings somehow and enjoy the little bit of solitude I have until these evening. As I was leaving this morning, H said to me “How are you doing?” I looked at him, feeling a little stumped, so I asked for clarification. “Well, you seem like you’re in a better mood. You must be doing better.” I said “I am fine. I just don’t talk about it.” He gave me a hug and I wanted to choke him. 😀
“Even if you’ve been badly treated, as in a terrible marriage, an abuse situation or a financial scandal, holding on to your outrage forever defines you by that hurt and not by the blessing of whatever time you have left on this planet going forward” (Banschick, 2011, para. 9).
Banschick, M. (2011, October 17). It’s not fair! But why should it be? [Web log post]. Retrieved from http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201110/its-not-fair-why-should-it-be