The Illusion of Courage: Part II

Having the courage to stand up to and call out the facade presented by the man behind the curtain takes an immense amount of courage. The will to survive kicks in, but only after the illusion is challenged by real courage.

Real courage is trusting oneself. Sometimes, real courage can only occur through emotional fatigue.

That’s OK, as long as it actually occurs.


9 thoughts on “The Illusion of Courage: Part II

  1. The nature of courage has been something I’ve thought about for a long time, too. I’ve come to believe that there is no such thing as courage without fear. Unless we are afraid, we cannot be brave, because action in spite of fear gives birth to courage. And courage is necessary for everything else, it lets us breathe again.

    • I totally agree. I think the fear indicates a stretching of our capabilities and comfort zones, which is all good. For me, acting in the face of fear that would otherwise render me frozen is a huge step in a right direction. Nowhere else in my life does freezing fear appear but for in my dysfunctional relationships.

      Dude, if that’s not an “ah ha” moment, I don’t know what is! πŸ™‚

      • Ah ha, indeed. πŸ™‚ One little gestalt a day changes the fear into strength.

        With slight modernizing edits:

        “The brave woman is not she who feels no fear,
        For that were stupid and irrational;
        But she, whose noble soul its fear subdues,
        And bravely dares the danger nature shrinks from.”

        Joanna Baillie, Count Basil (1798), Act III, scene 1, line 151.

        I hesitate to intrude more, as I don’t know you and the situation’s whole history. You’ve had a rough go of it lately, though, haven’t you? But I wish you well and hope each day brings you closer to some peace, and looking back, that you will have pride in how you stay true to yourself without causing harm to anyone. That ain’t easy.

      • No intrusion whatsoever! Thanks for your kind thoughts. Eh, lately it has been challenging but I guess I’m at that point in my life where questioning and changing is a more active process than status quo. I try not to get too towed under by the stress and I really liked “The brave woman” quote. Brilliant and inspiring!

        As long as I make progress in whatever increments possible, I’m happy. Staying true to myself is enormous, as you pointed out, and that is my sole goal.


  2. Good. That’s a big job, but it’s the right one. I don’t mean to sound like Dad, but I really just mean that we all have awful things in life, sooner or later. I don’t know where I picked this up, but am at the point now that I claim I invented it. (Feel free to quote me as though I did, sort of spread the fraud a bit more. I’ll cut you in on the royalties.) πŸ™‚ The only way to win this rigged obstacle course of life is to suck every molecule of meaning out of even the worst of times. Don’t miss one miserable second. Then discard the husks and wear your battle scars with pride. That way you can never lose, because you never quit. QED. “TradeMarkedHemmingplay”. Sounds like you’re that kind of person, too. I used to think I was your ordinary kind of guy, not too frightened, and who in fact took some big chances. But some life and death stuff happened and stripped away all the pretense. Point is, you can learn from anything you can survive.

    Ummmm. There’s the dad voice again. Sorry. πŸ™‚

    • Nah, no Dad voice transmission received here. You don’t swear enough! ha! πŸ™‚

      Q.E.D. – one of my favorites! nice.

      No, I never quit, which is actually a big damn stupid problem when one realizes they’re codependent (LOL!) Because I tend to swing wayyyyy toward the philosophically driven approach to learning, I definitely suck every molecule of meaning out of everything. Always have.

      I appreciated your point regarding the life/death stuff. While my life/death stuff hasn’t actually been physical, it has manifested in the nature of my existing or not existing. If I continue down the path I’ve been going on, I won’t exist. Really. Poof. For all intents and purposes, she’d be gone.

      That is the choice I can’t make. I won’t.

      Thanks for the cheering on!

  3. I do not know if I have courage. I tend to charge into the fray without thinking. I stand for those who are bullied or put down. I will say wrong, even if it cost me. I marched in the sixties, I stood in lines for change. Would I do it again? I do not know? Was it brave or just bravado or just foolishness? Again I do not know. But I was passionate and felt the wrongs needed to be put right. Now things are changed to the point that the issues are blurred. Some things are right, good environment, rights for all, but other issues are complex with shades of right and wrong.

    • Great observations Barry. It’s cool that your generation had causes whilst growing up as my generation was kind of blah. We were the conformists and I suppose many, like myself, grew up to be confused with the whole concept of authority and [misplaced] trust.

      Generally speaking, I have always been a strong advocate for my employees and students. Like you, I have no reservations in standing up for what is right and I simply do not understand why it is so difficult for organizations to do the right thing sometimes. On a personal level, I’m learning to stand up for myself. Professionally, no problem at all. I feel very fortunate to be given the opportunity to learn to better judge those personal gray areas. After all, I could simply go through life in denial rather than go through the sometimes painful process of “waking up”.

      It’s all worth it!

      Good to hear from you!

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