The Elephant That Comes for Thanksgiving: Family Secrets

Wonderful article!

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By Matt W. Sandford, LMHC

Elephants will be dining at Thanksgiving dinners all over the country, won’t they? Our culture has used this concept of an elephant in the room when it comes to the things that are awkwardly not spoken about. Families are known to control what is spoken about and what are considered acceptable topics and are able to make it known what is off limits without ever putting it into words. And anyone who has experienced this type of thing, particularly in family situations, knows what that awkwardness feels like. If you’re the one whom some kind of wrong has been perpetrated against you feel strangled by the way your hurts have been invalidated and you just can’t acknowledge it. You are wounded again every time you are back with those people, as they continue to invalidate your hurts, communicating insensitivity, rejection, ostracism, betrayal, judgment, callousness and…

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2 thoughts on “The Elephant That Comes for Thanksgiving: Family Secrets

  1. Hi Dharma,

    I appreciate the re-blog!


    Wishing you the best through the holidays – as you pursue making new memories – and grieving the painful ones so that the the sting is lessened!


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