One of the things I recently discovered through my study and practice, led to an enormous revelation about myself. I act in certain ways that attract things I don’t necessary or consciously want. We all do this mirroring thing in one way or another and I cannot believe how difficult it is to see. It’s even more difficult to follow through on changing it. [I know, “duh” LOL!]
Here is an example. Because I was projecting so much ambiguity about moving out, my spouse reacted in ways that reinforced that ambiguous thought pattern. At one point I realized “well of course he did, I planted the seeds didn’t I?” The difficult part was not actually doing something to establish a different boundary but it was confronting and setting aside all of the fear, frustration and self-torture before I could act. The doing part was easy.
I realized that I have to examine everything *I* am doing/have done and steer away from being so focused on what H was doing. I can see that addressing my problems now, as if I were going into a new relationship, gives me the opportunity to recalibrate so I don’t make the same mistakes or attract the same problems again. Easier said than done, and I’m pretending on the new relationship part because that’s not reality. It just a tool of my imagination that helps me wonder “OK, how would I want to be in a healthy and fulfilling relationship? What would that look like?” I believe thinking that way though can bring about positive changes. I finally starting to understand what it means to find my happiness from within. [just starting ok, not proficient – yet] I remember, very vaguely, fleeting moments of that in my lifetime.
Well now doesn’t that sound exciting?
- This Thing Called You – Attraction and Repulsion (tonysdailyvision.wordpress.com)
- Motivational Mirror (thestylishdork.com)
- The Wo (Man) in The Mirror (ladyrah.com)
- Mirror Mirror (DP challenge) (apurvakj.wordpress.com)
- 5 Psychological Tips To Guarantee A Healthy Relationship (relationshipsandpsychology.com)