Here we are again, running around the circular logic track. Why do I want to separate and why would the separation create different circumstances than my living here…
1. Eliminate codependence. Spending time away from my partner, provides each of us with the space to develop self-assurance and minimize neediness.
2. Develop self-responsibility. When there is no one else to blame, life looks different, and provides an opening to become more aware and responsible. I would like to look into my own heart about what matters most to me and investigate the imaginary negative conversations we are both having in our heads that keep us distracted from facing how we really feel.
3. Experience a relatively stress-free cooling-off period and gain a more detached perspective. We need to interrupt a serious emotional drama in order to find new ways to improve and strengthen our marriage. Building anger and resentment aren’t healthy for either of us and will only hurt our chances of making positive change in our relationship.
4. Minimize the stress on the children. While some experts would argue that having one parent move out of the home increases the stress on children, I believe that the benefit of no longer seeing Mommy and Daddy fighting far outweighs any negative effects.
5. Deepen my support system. Share myself even more deeply with those who know and love you, especially my children, whom I am largely unavailable for due to the amount of stress inherent in the current situation.
6. Become more introspective about the situation. Consider what I like about myself and my life. Consider what I would like to change about myself, as well as in our relationship.