After taking the codependency self assessment (http://malecodependence.com/codependence-self-test/) I found myself to be the overachiever I typically am.
Although I am not a male, which is the intended audience of the blog, the behaviors are transferable. I answered yes to all but 4 of the 25 questions.
The diagnostic message of the quiz results stated “You have lost your sense of identity and you are consumed by the problems of people in your life. You can’t be happy unless you are rescuing irresponsible people from their destructive decisions. In reality, however, your hope for sanity and emotional health is not in that person to persons getting well. You have to take steps to get well whether that person does or not. Find a counselor or support group to help you gain wisdom and strength.”
Yet another “ah ha!” moment.